Find a New Hobby!

Discovering a new hobby can be just what you need to switch your focus onto something productive. Maybe pick up some different magazines about baking, knitting, writing, psychology... Magazines cover so many different topics; you can be sure to find something you want to pursue. If you struggle to leave the house because of your anxiety, search the internet for a new hobby. You could try taking up painting, illustrating, writing, playing a musical instrument! The possibilities are limitless. You might just discover an amazing hidden talent!!!

Help Somebody Else

When the focus is shifted onto someone else, your symptoms of anxiety may subside. Stopping your mind from concentrating on your own thoughts and sensations can ease the uncomfortable feeling of anxiety. Help a friend in need or get involved in some charity work. Considering those who are much more underpriveledged than yourself can help you to put your worries into perspective.

Keep Hydrated!

There is no quicker way to significantly reduce general anxiety than adopting good eating and drinking habits. One of the most easily implemented and effective additions to your diet is fresh water.

Water is a great quencher of thirst but more importantly here -a great quencher of anxiety.

Regular fresh drinking water is a vital ingredient to your diet. This is something the medical profession has been telling us for years. When we are dehydrated our cells can feel this at a molecular level and communicate this to the subconscious as an underline subtle anxiety or threat to survival.

Have you noticed the effects of dehydration on your emotions before?
The key is to drink eight glasses of fresh water daily.

Laughter Is The Best Medicine

LAUGH! Go on - Laugh out loud right now. Trick yourself.

Or watch something really funny. You can't be miserable and laughing. You can't be stressed and laughing. You can't be sad and laughing. You can't be anxious and laughing. So it MUST be good medicine :-)

Words of Wisdom

It's a good idea to find inspiring, uplifting quotes that make you feel like you can handle anything. Perhaps you can write them all down in a notebook and carry them with you - or put them on post-it notes and stick them up in your bedroom.

Some quotes I have found helpful are:
  • Life begins at the end of your comfort zone!
  • No one ever said that it would be easy, they just promised that it would be worth it.
  • The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.
  • If you cry over losing the sun, your tears will make it impossible to see the stars.
  • Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore.
  • Some of the most beautiful flowers will only bloom on the darkest nights.
  • You block your dream when you allow your fear to grow bigger than your faith.
  • When it is dark enough, you can see the stars.

Don't Ask Questions!

If you're having a good day, GO WITH IT! Don't question it. Enjoy it for as long as it lasts. Embrace the calm moments that you feel and you will enjoy them so much more. It doesn't matter if they don't last forever - you enjoyed them while they were there.

Cook

If you're at home, cook!

If you don't know how to, then now is a great time to learn. Cooking can be so relaxing and is a really good distraction from your anxieties.

Click here for some easy recipes.

Be Kind To Yourself

When things don't go brilliantly, don't beat yourself up about it.

Just give it another go the next time you feel up to it.

Keep on trying!

Don't Give Up

When you feel yourself feeling anxious and the symptoms are strong, do the opposite of what you would normally do - if you're feeling brave. If you would normally lie or sit down when you begin to panic, run up and down some stairs instead! This will burn off your pumped up adrenaline and also prove to yourself that you will get through it whatever you do. If you are outdoors and you feel a wave a panic rushing over you, don't lean against a wall or somebody else - keep on walking and it will pass.

Reward Yourself

Treat yourself to something nice when you achieve something big! Perhaps have a relaxing bath or a massage or buy yourself something nice.

Even treat yourself for trying something you were uncertain about - even if it didn't turn out the way you wanted it to. Congratulate yourself for giving it a go.

Problem Solving

If you become aware that you have a realistic worry or problem that you feel may be causing you anxiety, a problem solving approach may help.

A good way to begin is to write down a problem. Define it as clearly as you can. Next, write down as many possible solutions as you can. It doesn’t matter how silly you may think the solutions are, the point is to think of as many as you can. Try to think how you have solved similar problems in the past. Ask a friend what they might do. Think to yourself what you might advise a friend to do if they had the same problem.

So, the process starts with writing down what is making you anxious and then listing as many possible solutions as you can.

Choose what seems like the best solution and write down all the steps you would take to achieve that solution. Who might help? What might go wrong? Often it is helpful to think, “What is the worst thing that could happen?” If you can think of a plan to cope with this, your anxiety might reduce.

If you are trying to come up with a plan to tackle a problem that has been worrying you for some time, it is often helpful to discuss this with a friend or even your doctor.

Understanding Your Anxiety

Try writing an 'Anxiety Diary' - for a period of two weeks. Keep an hourly diary of your anxiety and activity level. Rate your anxiety from 0-10. Note down anything that seems important. Were you out or at home, who were you with, what were you doing, what were you thinking about? You may start to become more aware of situations that make you anxious or that you may even be avoiding. What is your general level of stress like? This information will help you begin to tackle your anxiety.

Rainy Day Ideas

Rain is often seen as an annoyance, next time it rains visualize it cleansing both you and the earth.

Rain can be viewed as a nourishing gift. When it rains, imagine the water washing away your fears. Rain also serves as a symbol of emotional cleansing and represents the unending union between earth and sky.

Visualisation

Visualise your life as you want it to be. Sit quietly where you won't be disturbed and run it through your mind like a movie. Feel the feelings of having that life of your dreams, free from anxiety.

Do this daily. It's a good idea to do it before you go to bed. This brings sweet dreams and a happy sleep.

Be Enlightened

A brilliant website is DailyOM.com.

This site has helped people out in tremendous ways. It's one of the most enlightening places I've found on the internet, and I hope that by sharing this with all of you, you will find the same inspiration, enlightenment, comfort and hope that I have from reading through the things it has to offer.

What Do You Want?

When focussing on the things that you want from your life, don't tell people what you don't wait, tell them what you DO want. Talking about what you don't want will only make you concentrate on it more.

Nourish your mind and tell it what you want. Believe that you will achieve it.

The Power of Affirmations

Affirmations are positive statements which are repeated many times, in order to trigger the mind into positive action. In order to ensure the effectiveness of the affirmations, they have to be repeated with attention, conviction, interest and desire. Repeat affirmations that are not too long. Repeat them anytime your mind is not engaged in something in particular, such as while traveling in a bus or a train, waiting in line, walking etc. You may also repeat them in sessions of 5-10 minutes each, several times a day.

Relax any physical, emotional or mental tension while affirming. The stronger the concentration, the more faith you have in what you are doing, the more feelings you put into the act, the stronger and faster will be the results. Choose only positive words, describing what you really want. Always affirm in the present tense, not the future tense. Saying, "I will not panic", means that you intend to not panic one day, in the indefinite future, but not now. It is more effective to say, "I am not panicking", and the subconscious mind will work overtime to make this happen now, in the present.

Some positive affirmations are:
  • I am healthy and happy.
  • My mind is calm.
  • My thoughts are under my control.
  • Everything is getting better every day.

Build Your Confidence

The formula for building confidence, and indeed for bringing about any personal change, has FIVE elements.

1) Develop Self Awareness
Know yourself. Acknowledge that there are aspects of yourself that you wish to change. Understand what has prevented you from feeling confident.

2) Intention
Assert your intention to be confident and make a commitment.

3) Thinking
Change your thinking! This includes changing restrictive and destructive attitudes and beliefs.

4) Imagination
Use it! Imagine yourself being a confident person, and feeling so much better because of it.

5) Act
Act as if you are already confident. The more you speak and behave confidently, the more confident you will become.

All of these elements are essential, otherwise change is unlikely to be permanent. If this sounds daunting, don't worry! You are already on your way - you just haven't realised it yet! Be patient and practice practice practice!

The Gift of Nature

Some Herbs Are Known To Promote Calmness

Herbs have been used for treating all kinds of ailments for hundreds of years. They are generally safe and non-addictive and have little or no side effects. Many people use herbal treatments for this reason.

One particular herb called kava kava is very effective as a tranquilizer. Though it's not addictive, there are some reports linking it to liver problems. There is no evidence, but there are other alternatives.

Valerian is a great natural remedy for anxiety. It's also useful for helping you sleep better. If you're anxious, you probably don't have good sleep, so this should be of great benefit.

Passion Flower is another herbal sedative that allows you to sleep better and calms nervous disorders. It's also used for high blood pressure and epilepsy as well as other conditions.

Passion Flower also acts as a painkiller. There is strong evidence that it contains antidepressant properties and because of this, it can be used for anxiety disorders.

Lavender is a herb that has properties that help to calm you and promote a healthy nervous system.

Lemon balm, when combined with other ingredients like Valerian, chamomile or Passion Flower, helps reduce anxiety. On it's own, it's not certain if lemon balm is effective, but it does appear to help when combined with other herbs.

Remember to speak to a qualified homeopath or health professional before beginning a course of herbal medicines.

Listen To Your Body

When your body is asking for a rest and a time to rejuvenate itself, do not worry about the symptoms. Allow your body a break.

In order to help yourself, do not fight to feel better. Do not worry and obsess about how you feel. You sometimes need to give your body the break it is craving.

Embrace Your Fears

Start to move towards your fears. As you may already know, avoidance only worsens the problem. By avoiding certain situations, you are telling your body you are in danger. This then becomes a learnt behaviour and forms a new habit that tells you to run away from how you are feeling.

"Avoid your fears and they begin to grow. Move towards them and they dampen."

This won't be easy at first, but this is the way to de-sensitise. Invite your symptoms and fears, shake them by the hand. Let them be there. They hate being invited as they have no fear to feed on and this is the very thing that keeps them alive.

Regular Exercise

It is healthy to get all of those anxieties and nerves out of our system by exercising. Vigorous exercise can be extremely effective in helping you to feel calmer and more in tune with yourself afterwards. Softer exercises can also help.

You could try exercise such as yoga, pilates, dancing, aerobics, running, swimming, judo etc.

Any kind of exercise is brilliant, especially if you are feeling particularly anxious, so try to include healthy amounts of exercise into your lifestyle! It not only improves your physical and mental health, it reduces stress as well. It relaxes tense muscles and can aid sleep. Exercise also burns off all of the stress chemicals and creates a release for all the anxiety that can build up in a day.

Meditate

Meditation is the concentrated attention on a thought or object.

Meditation has many benefits: Principally these are relaxation, greater awareness and understanding of our selves, more patience and acceptance and less ambivalence. Thus, meditation is often suggested for those who have anxiety or panic disorder issues.

Click here for some meditation ideas for anxiety, panic attacks and phobias.

B Vitamins

Try taking a vitamin called "B-12".

It's a vitamin that helps level out your nervous system and can really help people suffering from anxiety.

You can find these vitamins in most health or herbal stores.

Record of Achievement

Keep a note of your successes! Write them down. Look at them often. It will help you see how far you have come! Keep them safe and update them as much as possible.

The 'Can't' Epidemic

Whenever you hear yourself using the words 'I can't', replace them instantly! They aren't healthy words to say because you are telling yourself that you are incapable - but you AREN'T! You are capable of anything. If you are afraid of flying and you say: "I can't get on that plane" - it is NOT true. You may be extremely fearful but you CAN get on the plane - and you won't die!

Some replacements for the word 'can't' might be:
  • I would rather not
  • I don't want to
  • I would find it difficult to
  • I feel that I shouldn't
  • It would be hard for me to
Although the changes are subtle, they will change your attitude for the better. By using these alternatives, you know you are still capable of doing ANYTHING!

Stop the What-Ifs

It is so important to stop that cycle of 'what if' thoughts that are running riot in your mind. They are creating fear that doesn't need to be there.

"Worries are like a rocking chair. Something to do but it gets you nowhere."

Some common 'what if' thoughts are:
  • What if I never get better?
  • What if I have to live like this for the rest of my life?
  • What if I make a fool of myself?
  • What if I faint?
  • What if it is just me who feels this way?
  • What if I'll never be able to enjoy the things I used to?
Thoughts like this are a waste of time and they usually amount to nothing in the end. Their purpose is to keep your anxiety alive. All of this unnecessary worry puts a tremendous burden on your body. Recovery is not about resting the body as much as resting the mind. Thrashing it daily with worrying thoughts only increases your feelings of panic and anxiety. Worrying serves no purpose whatsoever and is counter productive.

The next time you have one of those 'What if' thoughts, just let it go. It's just your habit to worry - understand this - realise it will serve you no purpose and just let it go.

The Art of Gratitude

Keep a 'Gratitude Journal'.

Before you go to bed at night, write all the things you have been grateful for during the day. It could be simple things, like spending time with your family or friends. It could be that you're grateful for nature - for the sky and the weather. Write down anything you can think of.

I often start mine with "I am grateful for this day."

Comfort Objects

Find something that gives you comfort - ideally something small that you can take with you and squeeze when you're going into a situation that might make you feel anxious.

Some people find that small teddies help - or smooth pebbles that you can rub between your fingers when you're feeling nervous. Yours could be your iPod or mp3 player or a book, or a piece of jewellery.

Change Your Diet

Changing your diet and lifestyle can help many forms of anxiety and the symptoms that go with it. It is important to eat healthily at all times, but even moreso if you are suffering from anxiety. If you eat healthier, you will find that you have so much more energy, you will feel calmer and less depressed.

Try and eat a healthy, whole foods diet with plenty of fresh vegetables and fruits. Try and include foods that are rich in B vitamins, such as whole grains, nuts, green vegetables, eggs and fish.

To help lift moods and help calm anxiety, keep away from processed foods and eat more natural products. Also what you drink can have an affect on your stress levels. Although drinking alcohol seems to have a calming effect short term, it dehydrates the body, leaving you feeling more anxious than ever. If you feel you can't give up altogether, then just try to moderate it.

Avoid fizzy drinks loaded with sugar, instead drink plenty of water. If you don't really like water that much, you can get flavoured water and fruit cordials that can be diluted.

AVOID TOO MUCH CAFFEINE!

Animal Lovers

For those of you who have pets, be with them often. Stroking an animal is proven to be very therapeutic and can even lower blood pressure. Being with your pet can inflict a sense of calmness and well-being whilst putting you in a state of love for your pet.

Dear Diary

Keep a journal. I don't mean blogging...I mean actual pen-to-paper journalling. Keep a journal and a pen in your bag and write out what's bothering you, jot down something to make yourself laugh, or doodle. You'll find that it helps to center your thoughts when you start to panic.

Also, flush your negative entries. Keep the good ones safe. When you can't find a pen, reading the good news you keep recorded for yourself will be just as effective as writing something new.

Hugs

HUGS! Give them, receive them!
There's no denying that it makes us all feel better.

Take a Walk

Walk. It doesn't have to be far, but if you're prone to holing up in your room frequently or don't have a space of your own at home, walking helps. Grab your mp3 player, and just go out for a bit. Or do it in silence if that helps you more. The important thing is to change your surroundings slightly while engaging your body in some sort of physical activity.

Smile and the World Smiles with You

Try smiling. If you find yourself becoming anxious, force yourself to smile. It really seems to help. Also, every day try to think of at least one thing that makes you happy or grateful.

Sunshine

If it's nice outside, go out! The sun makes most of us feel happy. The warmth on your skin will make you feel comfortable and free. Try it. It's better than sitting in the dark.

Identify the Problem

Identify the problem, give your feelings shape and form, focus on it - and repeat to yourself that you "completely and fully accept yourself" until you get a feeling of calm and emptiness. Then, literally - let the sunshine in. Feel it warming your limbs and diminishing that shape or form you identified. Soon, your troubles will melt away and you will feel balanced and calm.

Music Sways the Human Soul

"Music sways the human soul."

Listen to music when you're feeling anxious. It will help to distract you. Perhaps try putting some relaxation music onto your iPod or mp3 player and listen to it when you need to calm your mind.

Upbeat, happy songs can also help. Music is a great form of emotional communication and a happy song can make you feel the emotions in that song.

Muscle Relaxation

Try muscle relaxation regularly.

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If you practice this daily, it can help you to recognise when your muscles tense up so you can release them more quickly.

Cold Compress

If you are in the middle of a panic attack, placing a cold compress or wash cloth on the back of your neck can help to snap you out of it, as it instantly takes your mind off the panic you're feeling.

Value Your Sleep

Get the necessary amount of sleep that your body and your brain needs. If you are deprived of sleep, you are less likely to be able to handle tough situations. Teenagers should ideally get 9 and a half hours of sleep every night.

Get a Check-Up

If you can, get a doctor to listen to your lungs, etc. Basically, have a check up with your doctor to make sure everything is fine. Make sure you're not malnourished and that you're perfectly healthy. One less thing to stress about.

Be MindLESS

Be mindLESS. Think of something so far off in fantasyland, until you're basically mumbling to yourself in thoughts, hardly paying notice to your own thoughts OR your body.

Head Between Legs

If you feel your heartbeat racing, sit down and hang your head to your knees, and slow down your breathing. If you can't do that, just focus on breathing slowly.

Heat

Get a heating pad. It's good for the chest and will make breathing easier. If you can't get hold of one, try a hot bath. The heat will free up your chest and the water will relax you.

Diaphragmatic Breathing

The diaphragm is the most efficient muscle of breathing. It is a large, dome-shaped muscle located at the base of the lungs. Your abdominal muscles help move the diaphragm and give you more power to empty your lungs.

Diaphragmatic breathing is intended to help you use the diaphragm correctly while breathing to:

  • Strengthen the diaphragm
  • Decrease the work of breathing by slowing your breathing rate
  • Decrease oxygen demand
  • Use less effort and energy to breathe
Click here for some diaphragmatic breathing exercises.

Turn Off the Computer

Step away from the computer, it usually doesn't help. And as tempting as it is, try not to label your disorder too much. When you read up on things too much, you can become convinced that you are suffering from it. Never self diagnose yourself. If you're worried about something, take a trip to the doctor.

Sing Your Heart Out

Sing to your favourite music. Even if you're breathless, it seems to all level out and become stable. Breathe through your diaphragm whilst you do sing. It is the healthiest way to breathe.

Gaming

Play video games. It is a great way to occupy your mind so that you're not focussing on negative thought patterns or anxious situations.

Emotional Freedom

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) - an emotional, needle free version of acupuncture that is based on new discoveries regarding the connection between your body's subtle energies, your emotions, and your health. EFT has been reported successful in thousands of cases covering a huge range of emotional, health and performance issues. It often works where nothing else will.
Click here for more information.

Take Care to Be Mindful

Be MINDFUL! This is extremely beneficial for anxiety sufferers. Live for the moment. Be aware of the 'here and now'. Concentrate on the sights you see, the things you feel, what you smell, hear, taste etc. Really focus on these things. Feel your feet on the floor or your body in your chair. Enjoy what you feel.

Just Count Anything

Count anything! Count how many colours are in a painting. How many cars are driving past, how many people have black hair etc. Count money, count buttons. All of these things can distract you from the panic that might be going on inside you.

Count Backwards

Count backwards from 10. It can really take your mind off your worries and anxieties and can stop the unhealthy cycle of negative thoughts that is dominating your mind. Counting is a brilliant distracting tool if you're having a panic attack.

Positive Thinking

Think positive thoughts! It sounds simple, but happy thoughts are essential in overcoming your anxiety! Your attitude has a huge impact on your emotions. A positive outlook towards life will get you anywhere!

The Paper Bag Method

Breathe deeply and fully into a large brown paper bag. This regulates the oxygen and carbon dioxide levels you are breathing into your lungs. When you breathe in too much oxygen because of hyperventilation, it can cause a light headed dizzy sensation. This method allows you to balance the amount of oxygen you are breathing in, as when breathing into a paper bag, you are breathing in your own carbon dioxide. This can be especially useful during a panic attack.